How to Officiate a Wedding in Missouri

As a Minister of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Pastafarian minister officiating a wedding

The Short Version

There are two things: the wedding ceremony, and the legal marriage. One is a ceremonial ritual, a performance, and the other is paperwork. You’re leading the ceremony. You may also assist the clerk with the marriage paperwork in some places. In Missouri?

Missouri is a clean, easy state for FSM ministers. Any clergyman in good standing with any church or synagogue can officiate. No registration required.

You Can Do This

The couple asked you because they want you standing up there — not a stranger, not a professional, you. That means something. Here’s what you need to know:

It’s not as scary as you think. Most ceremonies are 5–15 minutes. The couple does most of the talking (vows, “I do”). You’re the guide.

At a minimum, your ceremony needs two elements: 1. Declaration of Intent — “Do you take this person…” / “I do” 2. Pronouncement — You declare them married

Everything else — readings, vows, stories, jokes, Pastafarian blessings, the whole production — is optional and up to you and the couple.

FSM Ordination Package

The Ordination Package — $79

  • Paper Certificate of Ordination
  • Black/Silver Resin Wallet Card
  • Two Vinyl Car Decals
  • Digital credentials (PDF) delivered same-day
  • Free shipping worldwide

Get Ordained →

Preparing for the Ceremony

  1. Get ordained — Get ordained with the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. Takes a few minutes. The digital credentials come within hours, and the physical package ships in a few days.
  2. Talk to the couple — What kind of ceremony do they want? Religious? Secular? Funny? Short? This is their day — find out what matters to them.
  3. Write your script — Include the Declaration of Intent and the Pronouncement. Fill in the rest with whatever feels right — personal stories, readings, vows, humor.
  4. Practice — Read it out loud at least twice. Time it. Speak slowly — you’ll talk faster on the day.

Ceremony Day

  • Bring: Your script (printed), your ordination credentials (just in case), and a black pen
  • The ceremony: Walk through your script. Declaration of Intent → Pronouncement → done. Everything else is gravy.
  • On the license: Mark the ceremony type as “Religious” even if your ceremony isn’t particularly religious. “Civil” is reserved for government officials. Just a bureaucratic checkbox.
  • Relax. You’ve prepared. The couple picked you. Enjoy it.

If You’re Also Handling the Paperwork

Good news — Missouri makes this easy. FSM ministers can sign the marriage license, no registration required. You may want to provide your credentials to the Recorder of Deeds office.

Statute: Missouri Revised Statutes § 451.100 — any clergyman, active or retired, in good standing with any church or synagogue can solemnize marriages.

Can an FSM Minister Handle the Paperwork?

Detail Info
Can officiant sign the license? Yes
Registration required? No
Marriage license cost $48–$62 (varies by county)
Waiting period None
License valid for 30 days
Return deadline 15 days after ceremony
Witnesses needed 2

Before the Wedding

  • Call the local Recorder of Deeds — Tell them you’re an ordained minister performing a wedding. Ask what they need from you. They do this every day and they’re almost always helpful.
  • The couple gets their marriage license — They apply at the Recorder of Deeds office. Both parties appear with valid photo ID and Social Security numbers. No waiting period. Valid for 30 days.

Pro tip: The license is void after 30 days — the couple should time their application accordingly. No waiting period means they can get the license and marry the same week.

Right After the Ceremony

Sign the marriage license — you, the couple, and 2 witnesses. Black pen. Do this immediately after the ceremony — don’t wait.

After the Wedding

Return the signed license to the Recorder of Deeds within 15 days. Mail it or drop it off. Set a phone reminder right after the ceremony. This is the most important post-ceremony task.

Missouri Tips

  • Very FSM-friendly — broad “any church” language
  • No registration, no hoops
  • Note the office is the Recorder of Deeds, not County Clerk
  • 30-day license validity — couple should plan accordingly
  • No waiting period
  • SSN required on the license application — remind the couple
  • 15-day return deadline is generous

County-Specific Info

Questions?

Contact us. And the #1 rule: talk to your local Recorder of Deeds before the ceremony. They do this every day. They’ll tell you exactly what you need.

This page is a helpful guide, not legal advice. Laws change. Always verify current requirements with your local Recorder of Deeds.